| Hi, I married a girl whom I loved for 9 years with the consent from both the families, it was a 2 way love, My mother in law at first never wanted me as her son-in-law but pretended differently in front of her daughter and has always capitalized on every simplest possible mistakes of mine even after our marriage but I always ignored it thinking that she will realise that I am also her son. At first my wife used to say that her mother will die if she is left alone as her only son has thrown her out of his house and so I used to take my wife to her mothers house daily in the evenings but things has changed since I went abroad, My wife didn't came to my residence from airport instead went to live with her mother as she was caring for 7 months I didn't asked her to return forcefully. I closed my business as my family wanted me to go abroad to earn healthy which was planned by my mother-in-law and very well executed by my wife which I realise later, I got a good job abroad but couldn’t settle there as I wanted my wife & kid to come there, as they were making lame excuses I came back and decided to settle back in Hyderabad. Presently I am working in a B.P.O. as a Trainer & Recruiter and started a imported sofa manufacturing business unit this month with one of my friends. I stopped giving/spending money on my wife since 8 to 9 months but is paying for my kid’s school fees and is contributing towards auto fair also. I am living with my parents and my wife with her mother since 3 & 1/2 yrs, I am married since 4 & 1/2 yrs and has a kid, whenever I want her to come and stay with me, she says she will take diverse from me and I will not be allowed even to meet my son and asks me to file a case to seek custodian for my kid once he is of 7years of age then he will decide with whom he want to leave, I approached my mother-in-law to send her back many times but she says that she has not asked her to come nor she will tell her to leave, recently I approached my cousin brother-in-law for help but its 4 months and above it seems he is also taking me for a ride. Of late I came to know from my friend that my wife came to his house along with my kid and her servant and said that I am beating her and is taking all her money, but the truth is vice versa. She is lieing; I spent almost all my earning on her in last 13 years. She is working with GE since 7 years and doesn’t have any financial problems, My wife & her mother says that if I force her to come to my house then she will file a case against me and my family (parents, brothers & sisters) but what surprises me is she is not realising that is she & kid are my actual family, my mother-in-law even says that her daughter will get some good person for marriage since our marriage, I learnt from my in laws that my mother-in-law is repeating her own story, because of her my father-in-law married another lady which she denies in front of my wife and points fingers on his character. Whenever I wanted/visited my wife if my wife is not there then my mother-in-law started abusing my parents, brothers & sisters & if my wife is there she used to keep mum so I stopped visiting my wife since 4 months and she is not picking my calls but meeting my son at my cousin’s in-laws place every weekends. Even my son is very disturbed now. My Dad, Mother, Grandmother & rest of the family members want me to go for another marriage, which our religion permits. I don't want to desert her but there should be an end to this nonsense, Please suggest, as I am very disturbed, Thanks and regards, Rahail A Ahmed Poor baby felt very bad after reading all this, why don't you go counseling for your wife I hope it will work & if that doesn't work then show her your love for her even then if she doesn’t understand you then go with another marriage without divorcing her, I am sure she & her mother is threatening you with marring again to tell you the truth she will never be able to marry as long as you do not divorce her as she is earning she will not listen to you now and it is clearly visible that her mother is using or exploiting her life for her comfort, luxury and income and would be definitely supported by some one else to do the brain washing this is a common story now a days with many women who are educated but ill-literate. Seek help from her relatives but every chance that they may turn dumb possibility that they would be told to stay away from all this as this is none of their concern but keep trying or get married again for the child he/she is your child as long as you are willing to adopt if not now after sometime he/she will come to you.  Stay happy Hi, Srinivas, Thank you very much for reply, I don't want to divorce my wife I have tried all possible things for patch up but all my desperate efforts went in vain, my age is 33 & hers is 27 years. I had patched up with her always even though I was wrong in very few instances. If there is any counseling agencies or any other way out please recommend me I will try to get in touch with them and do something to give my kid a better live. Thanks & regards, Rahail A Ahmed Hi, Very sad to hear your story,even I am going through a similar situation,but my wife is not working,please let me know if you find any solution,may allah give some sense to our wives atleast for our children.Let me know Bhai if you find luck.Iam sure & hoping your problem is solved by now & you celebrate eid with your wife & kids. Saleem
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