I could provide you with legal advice, but that is perhaps not what you need at this instant.
From learning about your very unfortunate circumstances, I come out feeling that you first need to decide what is it that you want.
You are an educated girl who had a stable professional life before she got married.
In such a brief span of time since your marriage, you have been through what nobody, man or woman, should experience at the hands of another in an entire lifetime.
You seem to understand that what your husband and his family have done or continue to do to you is not correct.
You realise that given their history and background, a change in their approach is extremely unlikely.
You do not want a divorce or alimony.
What does not become clear is what you do indeed want. Do you wish to have your husband and/ or his family punished (legally) for what wrong they have done to you? Legal advice to that effect could be considered once you are more clear on what you are looking for.
Having said all the above, as a woman myself, here is what I have to say on a very personal level. Nothing or nobody should have the right to make you go through anything you are sure you do not want. Divorce, old age, being unmarried or without children- these are all stigmas that are becoming redundant. Today, a woman who has had the courage to stand up for what is right is respected far more than a woman who goes on suffering the misbehaviour of her husband and in-laws. Times are finally beginning to change in favour of women and I would urge you to become part of this positivity.
Please understand that you are still very very young at 29. Gone are the days when at 29/ 30, women were considered old. I have several unmarried girl friends who are older than 30 and very happy with their professional and personal lives. They want to get married but are happy to wait till they find a suitable person- not just a man willing to get married.
I would like to clarify that I am not at all a supporter of divorce for the sake of divorce. But I do strongly believe that staying in a marriage which not only strips you of your individuality but also harms you physically and mentally to such grave extents is by no means worth any pressure from society.
Your parents might feel that you separating from your husband or being unmarried at 30 is reason to be ashamed in society, but if you explain to them that that sorrow is nothing compared to the agony of having their daughter unhappy for all her life, I am sure they will understand. Parents could never see their children shed so much as a tear, let alone the trauma you are going through.
You have been very very strong so far. That is very clear from your story. Don't break down. Gather yourself and move forward. You have been and should continue to be your parent's support system- any hasty step you take at this point will shatter them for the rest of their lives. Be the sensible girl you are and calm down.
The members of citelegal/ citehr are always here to provide you with any advice we can give. But first I request you to try to understand what you really want- without any pressure from society. Nobody can stop you from being happy except you yourself.
Love and best wishes,
From India , Delhi
AS OF NOW,M YOU NEED TO WORK ON TWO ASPECTS:
1. WORK WITH PSYCHOLOGIST ON CONCEPT OF \"SELF ASSERTION\". THERE IS A BOOK BY A PSYCHOLOGIST, NAMED, \"HOW TO STAND UP FOR YOURSELF\".
2. DOWNLOAD FROM WEBSITE www.awgp.org, on what works in Family Institution system and why and there are few audios as well.
3. when all your positive tries and fails, then you have legal options.
But with determination and efforts and with insight on knowledge, things will certainly work.
From India, New Delhi