Iam begging for your support and suggestions..
My name is vandana ..and iam 29 yrs old Ghaziabad Based girl .. I have 6 yrs of exp into IT recruitment .. I resigned from my job just before week of my marriage .. my parents got only 15 days to do all arrangements for marriage …. My parents was worried abt my age.. so I decided to go for marriage.. my husband is also 29 yrs old .. he has spent his 28 yrs in village and on April, 2012 he started his job as a Sr. Supervisor in Chandigarh … He is Bsc + MBA in Production from Rohtak University .. But now his 3 elder brother are forcing him to sit at home and take care of thr parents property .. they don’t want Prabhat to make his better future..
I got married on 17 June, 2012. It was arrange marriage and it never went well from the beginning mainly due to vast culture and social difference between me and my husband ( Prabhat) side. he is from village side with very typical thinking and behaviour of in laws and he has no interest in trying to get change, and not taking any interest in learning modern way of leaving or have any conversation with anybody with my family . it seems, there is no hope to change his attitudes and way of thinking. basically we do not fit each other at all but now iam 29yrs old and don’t want to go for divorce .it is very difficult to convince any outsider that this could be the reason to get separated. but beyond that, . I don’t know how will I service my entire life with him , where there is no hope for love and affection and only thing and we have is senseless fight, arguments, mistrust and disrespect.
After 15 days of my marriage I got conceived … Prabhat said I will stay at my parents place for 10 days then he will take me to Chandigarh for 3 months .. I said ok .. in the mine while .. Prabhat was forcing to get a job in Noida … so tht he can also get shifted to Noida from Chandigargh .. …. I said Ok …. Then I started searching jobs in Noida … one day I got Faint in Bus due to pregnancy. after 15 days pregnancy … I called Prabhat ask him to give some money so tht I can go for Gyna treatment .. He denied for tht .. and said tht I have not made you pregnant .. this is not baby…and said I can’t afford your nursing home treatment bcoz I don’t have money to waste on you .. I went into depression and after completing of 1 month of Pega … I decided to go for termination of my Pregnancy .. my parents suggested me to not go for DNC .. but due to my husband behavior …. I intimated him bfore DNC .. then also he didn’t called me and asked abt the matter .. Infact my In laws was also not taking care of my pregnancy . they wants money not baby …
After DNC I decide to stay with my husband in Chandigarh so I been with him for 1 months.. thr also in Chandigarh my husband was forcing me to do job so simultaneously I was searching job in chandigargh just to help my husband .. He started blaming me abt my character and he use to check my mobile phone calls .. he says Iam dating with boys .. In the absence of him … Now these days Iam at my parents place since 4 months ..
Please bring some advice or information or suggestion before my life becomes unbearable and I does something serious with myself. Even Iam not ready to accept allimony, because Iam not ready for divorce.
NB: This was posted in CiteHR , legal forum
21st January 2013 From India, Mumbai
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