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AnonymousI am 31 year old and I belong to Lucknow. I am facing a problem with my wife & in-laws. I married a girl of my choice on 25 Feb 2012. She is M.A., B.Ed and more educated than me as I have only Bachelors degree of Arts, I had to drop my MCA due to some reasons. It was an arranged marriage but I spoke directly to her and knew that she was agreeable to this alliance without any pressure. We spoke on the phone for nearly 8 months before we got married. We loved each other but never met even though she belongs to same city. I am doing a job in Travel & tourism trade and earning 12000/- per month and live with my mother in a rented house. All these facts were told to my wife's family before marriage.
Her mother asked me help financially in purchasing a house & I rejected the offer politely saying that I would not take their help or my brother's who brought me up. I asked them to save money for their second daughter's marriage. They appreciated this at the time. However, three days after the marriage, she went back to her parent's place.
Our marriage ceremony was held as my big brother's house, so when she came after one month we stayed there for 15 days then we came to our rented house. she was not happy here because it was only 2 room set house which is smaller than her parent's house. She did not complain at the time - until one day when her younger sister and cousin brother visited us. I do not know what happened that day but next day onwards she started demanding to go back to her parent's house. I took her to my in-laws house. There I came to know that she has problem with our rented house and many other things like I don't take her to movies and restaurants frequently etc. I told her to wait for some time for things to be done according to her liking. Till June she had gone to her parent's house 3-4 times and stayed there more than one and half months & when she came back, complaining more & more saying that I married her for beauty, wealth & a life partner who can earn money doing a job in rude & abusive manner. I did not take it very seriously as I was in love with her & thought we needed some more time & she will be with me in my tough days. One night after dinner when we had quarreled and things got out of hand. In a fit of rage, I slapped her. I was immediately guilty. The very next day, she packed her belongings and called her mother to send a car as she did not want to live here. Her father came & took her. It was 24 June 2012. After that I have gone many times to my in-law's house to apologize and requested to send her back. But they refused every time and demanded divorce. I am not prepared for a divorce because I think it will destroy not only our life but the life of two families. One day she came to our house with her sister & cousin brother's and friend in my absence took her jewelry and other things as she has the key of safe. Now they also threatening to file a case of dowry against me. We have not talked in normal way since then. I m so depressed that many times I have thought to commit suicide. I just want to be with her. Please, guide me what I should do?
From India, Varanasi