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Hi,
I married a girl whom I loved for 9 years with the consent from both the families, it was a 2 way love, My mother in law at first never wanted me as her son-in-law but pretended differently in front of her daughter and has always capitalized on every simplest possible mistakes of mine even after our marriage but I always ignored it thinking that she will realise that I am also her son.
At first my wife used to say that her mother will die if she is left alone as her only son has thrown her out of his house and so I used to take my wife to her mothers house daily in the evenings but things has changed since I went abroad, My wife didn't came to my residence from airport instead went to live with her mother as she was caring for 7 months I didn't asked her to return forcefully.
I closed my business as my family wanted me to go abroad to earn healthy which was planned by my mother-in-law and very well executed by my wife which I realise later, I got a good job abroad but couldnít settle there as I wanted my wife & kid to come there, as they were making lame excuses I came back and decided to settle back in Hyderabad.
Presently I am working in a B.P.O. as a Trainer & Recruiter and started a imported sofa manufacturing business unit this month with one of my friends.
I stopped giving/spending money on my wife since 8 to 9 months but is paying for my kidís school fees and is contributing towards auto fair also.
I am living with my parents and my wife with her mother since 3 & 1/2 yrs, I am married since 4 & 1/2 yrs and has a kid, whenever I want her to come and stay with me, she says she will take divorse from me and I will not be allowed even to meet my son and asks me to file a case to seek custodian for my kid once he is of 7years of age then he will decide with whom he want to leave, I approached my mother-in-law to send her back many times but she says that she has not asked her to come nor she will tell her to leave, recently I approached my cousin brother-in-law for help but its 4 months and above it seems he is also taking me for a ride.
Of late I came to know from my friend that my wife came to his house along with my kid and her servant and said that I am beating her and is taking all her money, but the truth is vice versa. She is lying; I spent almost all my earning on her in last 13 years.
She is working with GE since 7 years and doesnít have any financial problems, My wife & her mother says that if I force her to come to my house then she will file a case against me and my family (parents, brothers & sisters) but what surprises me is she is not realising that is she & kid are my actual family, my mother-in-law even says that her daughter will get some good person for marriage since our marriage, I learnt from my in laws that my mother-in-law is repeating her own story, because of her my father-in-law married another lady which she denies in front of my wife and points fingers on his character.
Whenever I wanted/visited my wife if my wife is not there then my mother-in-law started abusing my parents, brothers & sisters & if my wife is there she used to keep mum so I stopped visiting my wife since 4 months and she is not picking my calls but meeting my son at my cousinís in-laws place every weekends. Even my son is very disturbed now.
My Dad, Mother, Grandmother & rest of the family members want me to go for another marriage, which our religion permits. I don't want to desert her but there should be an end to this nonsense,
Please suggest, as I am very disturbed,
Thanks and regards,
Rahail A Ahmed
9th November 2008 From India , Hyderabad

Hi
Since you want a legal solution for this problem you have conjugal rights according to the law.But this seems more of physological problem and lack of love and understanding ,Pls arrange for a cunselling for your wife and as well as for you. According to the advice from phsycatrist and elders you may proceed for another begning . Afterall everthing in this world is for love and recognition.
14th May 2013 From United States, San Francisco
dear Mr Rahail A Ahmed
your case is of misunderstanding and ur wife is being guided by someone else ...so you need to be clever enough to handle the situation... kindly contact me at so that I can further advice you
with regards
Uttam
8th August 2013 From India, Ranchi
I suggest you go for restitution of conjugal rights...... but you should make sure first whether you are having enough intimate relationship as husband and wife...... if not go for restitution of conjugal rights, if she that fails just file for the Divorce, if she loves you she will comeback otherwise, you will have suffer almost whole your young life in fights and etc.... so it is suggest that you consider first step being restitution and then Divorce.......
When people do not realise the value, there must be two reason either they are ingnorant or negligent, if she is ignorant she will comeback to you to start a life as wife, otherwise if she is negligent that means she is by heart not interested in you anymore...... so stay hassle free life better take the discussions which are conclusive........
8th August 2013 From India , Bangalore
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